Half of the women in the room were single millennials and I represented their biggest fear. You could see the horror on their faces. And so, to spare them further pain, I stopped talking and stayed silent for the rest of the evening. It all started at this monthly gathering. It was a women’s group and ironically enough the topic that evening was shame. It was the first and the last time I attended. A dozen of us were seated in a circle, discussing life and love, challenges an
Taking a journey as emotional and life altering as looking for love, combined with making ones efforts so very public, and top ping things off with a deadline, I knew I was looking for trouble. But instead, I found courage, I found friendship, and I found acceptance. I shared what was on my heart hoping that it would resonate with a few. But as it turns out, there were many—thousands all across the globe. You supported me throughout this year. I never would have made it 365 d
It's been a great journey! Thanks for going along for the ride. Although there's no "him," I know love will find a way! Enjoy the video. #52Weeks2FindHim #blog #Dating #findinglove #neenahpickett #onllinedating
Have you ever met someone who spent their entire life working toward something that never happened? Maybe it was something admirable like civil rights or maybe it was an unseemly goal like revenge. At the end of their life they were pitied for wasting so much of their time - and all for nothing.
But do the good (or bad) deeds that are done really die with that person? For the guy who was trying to make a positive change, what if he actually made things a bit easier for the
Why do you work so hard to find love?" I've had people ask me this over and over again. One particular email arrived after I came home from another singles' event where I seemed invisible to the men who attended. On this night, I began to wonder the same thing myself.
I was one of those students in high school who never really had to work hard to get good grades. I actually don't remember taking books and work home. I had one study period and that apparently was enough for
I went on a date several weeks ago. It was pretty awesome. I've had over 30 of them, and I rarely use that word to describe a date. He was sweet, funny and romantic. I remember thinking, I could fall in love with this guy. We talked about everything under the sun. Nothing too threatening for the first date, but he was so easy to talk to. After a long string of bad dates, I was hopeful again. Since we met at a restaurant, we said our goodbyes at my car. It was a Tuesday night
May your stockings be filled with hope – hope that pierces your heart and helps you to once again believe that love will come calling.
May the gifts under your tree be wrapped with hurt and disappoint of past relationships – wrapping that you do not recycle, but instead discard and allow to be carried far, far away.
May those gifts now free from the packaging of negativity be revealed to you as possible "him"s, waiting for your love.
And as you hand out gifts to your lo
I have been emailing back and forth with two guys who I like based upon the limited information that I know about them. Each email makes me like them a little more. It has me thinking about the many phases of online dating: You receive the first email from a potential suitor, which prompts you to do the profile review. If that goes well, you continue and there is a 2nd and perhaps 3rd email. At this point, you expect to receive the email that takes it to the next level, i.e.,
Growing up, I never saw my mom with a shovel. Mind you that in addition to a husband, she had six kids (half of which were able-bodied boys). We lived on a farm, so the driveway was as long as some city blocks, and there was the path to the barn that needed much work. All of it was man's work -- thank God. But in these modern times where the gender lines are blurred, and independence reigns, as does life in suburbia, who holds the shovel? Well, I got my answer this morning as
Boy do I want to laugh with you today. You know--laugh about something silly that just you and I get.
Someone asked me the other day my suggestion on what she should buy her boyfriend for Christmas. I'm pretty good at gift giving. I'm not the "spend a lot of money" type. Nor am I the kind of person who wants expensive gifts. I just like knowing someone took the time to think about me, understanding who I am… and then finding something not based on what I want or even what I
It's 11:13 pm and I'm going through my online dating sites and am responding to 3 emails. In addition, I have 3 new emails to read (2 that don't include photos), and a couple of winks. I look at each one and have to make a decision if or how I should respond. I also wonder - will any of these guys still be a part of my life a month from now… or in a year? Too much thinking for this late hour, so I focus on the moment and consider how to proceed for this day -- as I have done
I've asked this question before, but as I'm drawing to the end of my 52 weeks, I thought I'd ask the question to myself.
So I tabulated memberships and event costs and here's where I stand. I must give a disclaimer before I start. Some of the dating websites (i.e., Match & Christian Café offered me free membership for 6 months because of my own website), so I didn't come out of pocket for them. But I counted all 12 months anyway because my own website cost (which I'm not f
In the movie "The Invention of Lying" no one ever lied. Not only couldn't they lie, but they actually said aloud everything they were thinking. I loved hearing Jennifer Garner tell her date exactly what she thought of him and their prospects together. It wasn't said with malice, she was just speaking her mind. So I was thinking, if we all applied this to our dating profiles, I wonder how different they would sound. My Match.com profile would read something like this:
Don't listen to me. I've gone on 3 Speed Dating events this year and never once had a match. So, what do I know, right? It's like asking an unemployed person with 3 unsuccessful job interviews tips on landing a new position. Well, one thing I got going for me is experience. And perhaps you can learn from my mistakes and observations. So here are my 5 top tips! 1. Prepare questions ahead of time. I know this sounds geeky, but do it anyway. I'm not suggesting you take your list
In addition to finding "him", I'm also looking to learn and grow emotionally - to have healthy thoughts and attitudes about being single as well as being in a relationship. So, throughout the year, I've gone to people who I think have insight in this area and presented a series called "5 Questions on Finding Love" which gave each person an opportunity to answer different questions. Below were those asked of Dr. Aaron Turpeau. He is a successful Atlanta-based psychologist, rel
Remember three years ago when I came to you with this great idea to put myself out there in a big way to find my husband? I felt so inspired by this idea that I believe it actually came from you, as though it floated down from heaven into my innocent little head. I even did all those confirmation steps to make sure I was on the right track with you. So here I am only a few weeks away from the end and I just want to make sure you haven't forgotten about me. I know
1) That finding love is possible regardless of my age, race, height, weight or background.
2) That outside of looking for "him", I have found those family or friends (or rather they found me) who see me, know me and love me for all that I am and all that I am not.
3) For an imagination that runs wild… so wild that it sometimes I surprise myself and squeal on the inside with pure delight.
4) For all the people I've met over this last year who opened their hearts to me, w
Pick me! Choose me! Love me! These lines didn't work for Meredith of Grey's Anatomy and they don't exactly go over well during 8-minutes of speed dating. Well, I didn't actually say them aloud. But now that I'm thinking about it, how funny would it have been if I whispered these words to every guy who came to my table. It certainly would have made the evening more entertaining, because it definitely wasn't a successful night for me, unless you consider not finding one match i
A few years back I up and moved to a small town about 40 minutes outside of Philadelphia. It was the 3rd state where I resided in a 3 year time span. I moved to a place by myself where I didn't know a soul and no one knew me. My biggest concern was how will I make friends? I was working from home, so it wouldn't be through co-workers. No husband, so I wouldn't be mingling with any wives, and no children, so playdates with other parents were out of the question. But what I dis
I had a man cancel a date with me last week because his ex-wife couldn't take his daughter on her custody day. Based upon the circumstances, which I won't get into, it sounded suspicious. But how do you respond to kid issues? I mean, if he said he just found out he had to work, or he had to take his great-aunt shopping, I could roll my eyes and laugh it off with friends, knowing he was playing me with some lame excuse. But because he played the "kid card" I felt guilty for be